Monday, October 23, 2006
Dating advice for geeks.
I should point out that this entry is a response to another blog article that advises women on dating geeks.
#1: Realize that women may not be impressed by your level in World of Warcraft. Yes, I hate to break it to my fellow geeks, but women simply aren't wowed by your level 60 barbarian. Some may laugh at this first point, but I've honestly seen this thought process take action in multiple situations. In general, women don't care about your tech skills including but not limited to: programming, hacking, cracking, web page crafting, experience points in games, and "shop talk." So, please try to keep it to a minimum for her sake.
#2: Don't take shots at your hobbies personally. I remember an argument my freshman year where a girl was making fun of her boyfriend for playing to much Everquest and not ever getting out. He was completely offended and shouted back about how his social life of Everquest was better than most people's social lives in the real world. To many geeks are too uptight about being geeks and need to loosen up. Let her make fun of you and take it in stride because if they see you're confident with who you are, then that goes much further than going on the offensive.
#3: Do something spontaneous that doesn't include a Family Guy marathon or Halo. She will probably love it if you randomly decide to layout some cash to unexpectedly take her out some night to a nice dinner or do something exciting on the town. And yes, even if you're not 21 you can find something to do. Oh, and if it requires some driving, it'd be a good time for a heart to heart chat, not one for listening to TWIT the whole way (I know I'm going to catch heck from my girlfriend for this one).
#4: Most of us geeks are pretty low maintenance. That said, ask for her thoughts or input on something you've been thinking about each day. Who knows, maybe she'll say something you hadn't thought of that will completely change your perspective. To sum it up, she doesn't think you're a genius that knows everything and how to handle every situation; but she will respect you if you seek and oftentimes take her advice.
#5: Opposites attract more effectively than similars. If you date a lady who is a female remake of yourself then you could possibly find yourself in a very bland and uneventful relationship. I'm not saying geeks can't date geeks, but there should be at least some separation in interest. Otherwise you'll just be talking to yourself all the time like some crazy guy, and you'll never get a chance to see another take on life that a moderately different lady friend could share with you.
Well that's the main things I thought of when reading Penguin Pete's article. Feel free to let me know how wrong or right I am by leaving some feedback.
#1: Realize that women may not be impressed by your level in World of Warcraft. Yes, I hate to break it to my fellow geeks, but women simply aren't wowed by your level 60 barbarian. Some may laugh at this first point, but I've honestly seen this thought process take action in multiple situations. In general, women don't care about your tech skills including but not limited to: programming, hacking, cracking, web page crafting, experience points in games, and "shop talk." So, please try to keep it to a minimum for her sake.
#2: Don't take shots at your hobbies personally. I remember an argument my freshman year where a girl was making fun of her boyfriend for playing to much Everquest and not ever getting out. He was completely offended and shouted back about how his social life of Everquest was better than most people's social lives in the real world. To many geeks are too uptight about being geeks and need to loosen up. Let her make fun of you and take it in stride because if they see you're confident with who you are, then that goes much further than going on the offensive.
#3: Do something spontaneous that doesn't include a Family Guy marathon or Halo. She will probably love it if you randomly decide to layout some cash to unexpectedly take her out some night to a nice dinner or do something exciting on the town. And yes, even if you're not 21 you can find something to do. Oh, and if it requires some driving, it'd be a good time for a heart to heart chat, not one for listening to TWIT the whole way (I know I'm going to catch heck from my girlfriend for this one).
#4: Most of us geeks are pretty low maintenance. That said, ask for her thoughts or input on something you've been thinking about each day. Who knows, maybe she'll say something you hadn't thought of that will completely change your perspective. To sum it up, she doesn't think you're a genius that knows everything and how to handle every situation; but she will respect you if you seek and oftentimes take her advice.
#5: Opposites attract more effectively than similars. If you date a lady who is a female remake of yourself then you could possibly find yourself in a very bland and uneventful relationship. I'm not saying geeks can't date geeks, but there should be at least some separation in interest. Otherwise you'll just be talking to yourself all the time like some crazy guy, and you'll never get a chance to see another take on life that a moderately different lady friend could share with you.
Well that's the main things I thought of when reading Penguin Pete's article. Feel free to let me know how wrong or right I am by leaving some feedback.
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and no matter how cool you think it is, don't tell your girlfriend that you subscriber to mobilealibi.com - probably not a good way to establish trust.
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